What does it really mean when people say, "make a connection?" How do we know when we've made a connection with somebody? Could it be possible to feel like you've made a connection with someone but they don't feel the same way?
If you want to connect don't wait, initiate.
I've been listening to John C. Maxwell's, "Everyone Communicates, Few Connect." lately. And I came to the conclusion that it truly is difficult to form a connection with someone, but I also realized that it gets easier with time. The art of connecting is something that anyone can work on if they made the effort to. People who go the extra mile to get to know others and really listen, pay attention, and try to understand others are the ones who are most likely to connect.
Connecting is a choice and a mindset that can be learned.
Removing the focus on yourself and refocusing on the person you are trying to connect with is key. Connecting is mostly about them and not you. It's also about finding common ground, being relatable and approachable. People like being around "givers" not "takers". We are generally attracted to those who can help us or advise us as opposed to those who "use" us for their own benefit. We shut off when we sense people reaching out to us with ulterior motives.
So in order to make better connections we need to be "givers". How can we best serve others genuinely and humbly?
Think of myself less and think of others more.
Love,
E.
*Items in bold italics are quotes from John C. Maxwell's "Everyone Communicates, Few Connect."
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